It's not worth touching. I didn't make any response to Andy's original comments for the sake of letting the whole thing drop without further incident and I'm not going to say anything now because it's not worth the wank.
It's still kind of a sensitive issue but I'm not really angry or upset or hurt over it like I was. Even if I think she (and probably a few other people) have misjudged me and my reasons for doing that, no one has
asked be about it either. No one has spoken to me, anonymously or otherwise, about whether they think I was unfairly favouring a character or cast mates and therefore no one has bothered to find out my reasons for why I don't feel that's the case.
The only possible way I feel I've been neglecting people (outside my cast or otherwise) is because I
did not have the time to get to everyone - because RL has been a bitch and because I was, you know, juggling two other characters and trying not to fail spectacularly with them too. So I cut back to one so that now I
can devote the proper time to getting to know everyone and play more obviously outside my cast (who are all wonderful players, and who I like playing with for more reasons than simply because they're canon mates).
That's the crux of the issue, and other players and bitter anons can't make me feel guilty about this decision because it wasn't the wrong one. If they happen to think so it's only because they'd rather assume and judge than talk to me like a reasonable person and find out why.
Edit: And on that note, thank you to all the support from my friendslist, because I know most of you are smart enough not to let this escalate when it doesn't need to.